to artistic shame: I don't agree at all. I am a bisexual female, & my boyfriend is straight, but he is a boy lesbian. The most obvious way this manifests is when he wears girl clothes & pretends he is my girlfriend in bed. But it shows in other ways too. Anyway, he hooked up with a guy once many years ago, & he's decided he's just not interested in guys. So a guy who calls himself a "boy lesbian" is not gay. Queer yes; gay no.